Atithi tum kab jaoge?

If you are tired of your work, if you really need a break, what do you do? Most certainly, I would go off on a vacation and not barge into someone’s place uninvited, unwelcome. I also thought that most people would do the same until recently when I came across a person who was willing to break into anyone’s apartment rather than hers.

We had the terrible month of the year, with a wedding just done with in the family, with renovation in the house going on, with my brother’s college going, with my exams; in short every one of us in the family was deep submerged into work.  And on top of it all we had a distant relative coming over. This relative of us has never been that close, we have never visited each other; in fact we don’t even see each other unless there is an occasion. So she called us one fine day to ask if it was okay for her to come over and stay with us for a while? What were we to say? No? of course not! That would have been just rude and mean, but a yes was an added trouble at that time.

So with a diplomatic answer my parents hung up the phone, hoping she got the hint. With no door bells for the couple of days we thought she did get the hint, but then the third day brought her in with her two daughters just when we were having our lunch.

What is it a hotel? No!! We live in our house and we don’t expect uninvited people all the time. So how are we to feed them? Of course the men don’t realise this.

“Come, come, eat with us.” Said my dad.

But what do we serve them? I was to eat out so there was food for the only three of them. Any how my mother managed to prepare food for all. And she also made separate food for her 6 month old daughter.

Food was not the problem. It was her distance from us. We barely meet and talk, and now she was at our place, and we were lost with what to do with her and her two daughters. Her 6 month old was still fine to be with, but her elder daughter 6 years old, she was a child I have never seen. She would not sit still for a moment, and I can safely say that there is a fine line between being a child and a manner less one. Believe me; you wouldn’t have seen such a kid. I lost all my control when she tore two of my prepared answers to which I had no other copy of and still her mother did not say a word. I lost all control and yet all I could do was ask her politely to take that child away! What was I to do?

I knew kids are not my cup of tea, but I also am always capable of handling them well. At least manage to. But she was out of my imagination. All I wanted was to ask her to leave but of course that was out of the question.

And so this whole inconvenience went on for the next week. Our home was just a weird place to live in even for us. When she lived with us, we realised that she had guests at her own place and she was just tired of all the work and needed a break herself.

I don’t know how relieved she must have been living with us and having very little in common with us, but for us it was very bizarre. And all the while we just hoped when she would leave and we could get rid of fake smiles, unintended politeness, and all the formality.

We were in a situation of-

“Atithi tum  kab jaoge?”


Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

54 thoughts on “Atithi tum kab jaoge?

  1. I am sort of laughing in a way (not disrespectfully!!!), as this would have been me too years ago stuck in this situation but now, I would just have to choose to be honest and say they can’t stay with me. I think the older I get the more I weigh things and have learned to say NO! Especially if it is someone I have no real relationship with anyhow as then what am I to lose by doing so and this has made my quality of life soooo much better than trying to be a people pleaser in general. (Not that it was wrong of your family to allow her in your home!! – I just have reached a different point I think now in my life choices is all). If Mom doesn’t watch her child I have zero patience for that and will say something…for sure I would come undone had she allowed the child to tear my work up!!! Poor you!!!! Yes, kids are kids but how are they to learn if Mom and Dad don’t teach them common courtesy and manners!!! Six is old enough to not tear up papers certainly!!! Even so, kids do things still but I would be beside myself begging your forgiveness and my child CERTAINLY would be apologizing and punished!!! Poor you and your family to endure this!!

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    1. Thanks a lot for the concern. And you do have a reason to laugh. it was one hell of a hilarious scene in here.
      That was all my point, the kid was a kid, she may not behave but it was the duty of her mother to teach her and tell her that she was wrong, I had no place in there to tell her off. But she did not even do anything.
      I am just glad that they are gone and we are back to being normal, at least with our won work and being formal is not in the scene.

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      1. Even my mother!
        She never let us behave which she would not accept socially. she has always made sure that me and my brother would never do any thing unaccepted as kids. Even now sometimes she thinks fit to tell us what to do, instead of making a fool of ourselves.
        She was full with anger when that happened and simply wished that they would just leave, 😀

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    1. Oh yes, it was the only reason. Anytime I took out my laptop she threatened me to shower it with a glass of water. So i just played the meek one there. Could not take any risks with my sole partner.
      I have missed being here and also missed giving good exams because of them. And also reading all of the other’s posts.

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  2. Wow. I can relate to that. I come from a very nuclear family that doesn’t keep in touch with distant relatives too much. One would want to be more endearing and considerate towards such kin not abuse their generosity.

    Sorry to hear you had such an experience. Still, its a life experience to store away.

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    1. Thanks a lot for stopping by. I am glad you can relate to it.
      And yes, it was a pain for us when they were here, and may be really more because we are the nuclear kind as you say. But now that they are gone, we are having a good laugh over that too.
      So in the end, I guess it was an experience. only one regret, I could have given better papers!

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  3. I think half of indian population has this same problem and the other half is it’s reason.

    People here are very nice, we dont say, a word wheb we want to kill that person. Such courtesy doesn’t breeds any good I believe………

    Well, I hope, your athithi have left by now, if not my prayers with you…..

    And yes, it’s very relatable,!!!!!

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  4. Hehe!
    Could totally relate to this post.
    Once my grandmother’s brother’s grandson came to stay with us. He was an engineer looking for a job. Believe me none of us even knew about his existence till he came to stay. He was damn irritating. But yeah, after a few days, we got used to him, until he bothered to leave our place almost 6 months later 😛😂😂

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      1. Hehe.
        That’s true. The worst part for me was that my grandmother and my parents used to pamper him, literally everyone was perfectly okay with him. They found him ‘funny’. But he was too irritating I tell you 😂😂

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