Is it possible to love someone, wholeheartedly, and yet not like the person?

I mean not like his way of doing something, not like his beliefs, not like the way he simply judges other people, simply dismisses other people’s decisions.

PS: Just used the word ‘he’ randomly, it isn’t about any particular man. I am just wondering of it’s possibility. Can this happen, I mean love the person and yet not like him?

Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

56 thoughts on “Confusion

  1. happens…I know it happened with you…I have once a school crush..I like her a lot..maybe even now,but the way she do the things irritate me.But whenever I see her,my heart responds fastly,and even unable to control..but then again my mind interrupt and say” dude,she did this and that” and then I would back off..this not only happens in life be even in friendship.You adore a friend,you don’t know the reason why you adore him..but if he ignored you do some insult..mind never allow is response of heart which you can’t control,but liking is related to our experiences and brain..soo yes…I think it happened with your ex

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      1. You may be right…!!!!!! But whenever I read your posts,I always don’t speak about flash back, whenever I feel you are feeling sad about something,I really can feel through your lines,soo this time it really is soo close..soo I thought the same..maybe I am wrong too moush

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      2. Ok…but I can relate that..because it happens sometimes with my friends..just only one or want to spend time with them..but they don’t give a damn..still your heart pushes them to bother about them..we can’t like them but still we can’t stop to love is not in our hands..

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  2. Why not…its not neccesary to match with each an every attribute of ‘he’..
    We love our parents but still something disagree with them.but this doesnt means that we dont love them.

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    1. I know, right?
      Thank you so much for understanding. I was absolutely lost here. I mean we do love our parents, but sometimes we just do not like how they go about something.
      You gave an excellent example.
      Thank you so much.

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      1. Let’s motivate you…. Always keep this in mind…
        “We shall overcome..We shall overcome…We shall overcome some day… Deep in my heart I do believe that we shall overcome someday…”…
        Be happy the time will pass😊

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    1. I am struggling with it too, and have no idea how to deal with these problems. I mean you love the person so much, but at the same time their habits and certain things that they say may just not make any sense.


      1. Yes.. I know how bad such a situation is. Also when everyone else in this world hates that person like anything. And, loving that person just makes everyone else hate you too. And sometimes you yourself hate what they do.

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  3. Was initially confused with your question..but reading the second para, it was clear.. it’s can love him deeply from the bottom of your heart and dislike his certain qualities

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  4. You know one thing I tell you true incident, earlier I use to believe that the way I am living my life is the best way, always disciplined, with certain rules, always confined to my self , not so much social. And also used to like the same minded people and hating. life used to be a pile of boredom (which I realised later) then she came into life.. bindass, adiyaal, no fear., Living her life on her own rules. And the best part being a hate monger for such ideology I fell in love. And same happened vice-versa. 😊😊

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  5. This is quite possible… I do not like several things my parents believe in but I still love them. I even had a crush in college whom I didn’t like at all…and for my boyfriend, well I hate him but i love him..hope you get this! 😛

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