Know the blogger #5

Posted byMoushmi RadhanparaPosted inRamblings of my mind.Tags:, , , , , , , , , , , ,
  1. What are 3 things you want to accomplish before you die?

Become an author and to find one man, who isn’t like the ones that I have seen.

I’d be happy with that. Even if I just find him!

 

  1. What do you want to tell your 10-year-old self?

Stop wanting to grow up, it ain’t any good here.

 

  1. What’s the best thing you got from your parents?

The freedom to rise up, to voice up, to stand up for yourself.

They have given me the right that no one even in my distant family has.

 

  1. What’s the best thing about you?

You could tell me that. I’d be waiting for the answer on your comments below 😉

 

  1. What blows your mind?

You mean like really good way? When I see those dancers on television, they twist and turn so easily, like how the hell do you train your body like that?

 

You mean like angry way? When women in India have to think will she be “allowed” to do something?

 

  1. Have you ever saved someone’s life?

No.

But I did save someone from getting married too early, if that counts. She was a friend of mine and we both went together for our post-graduation.  Her dad wanted her to get married and wouldn’t let her study further. When I came in the scene, he did give it a thought and agree to “let her” go out of the town. She was happy after that, at least what I saw of it.

 

 

  1. What are you really good at but embarrassed to be good at?

If I am good at it, I am not going to be embarrassed about it.

 

  1. What would a mirror opposite of you look like?

A strong, beautiful adamant woman staring at her. Determined to conquer everything she wants.

I did a post sometimes back relating to it. (Challenge accepted.)

 

  1. What are 3 interesting facts about you?

I am not that interesting. But one thing is for sure, if that’s even interesting, if you meet me and talk to me once, you’d never understand me. You’d only think I am some confused, lost woman.

 

  1. Which of your scars has the best story behind it?

I could go on this for so long, let’s just say I try going past it.

 

  1. What’s the title of the current chapter in your life?

Harassed

 

  1. What were some of the biggest turning points in your life?

When I was 17.

 

  1. What’s the hardest lesson you’ve learned?

No one stands with you when you are in some problem. Your problems, you solve it.

 

  1. What do people think is weird about you?

Even my closes friends say, “I can’t understand her.”

 

  1. What mistake do you keep making?

Trusting people.

 

  1. What have you created that you’re most proud of?

I have a portrait of Lord Krishna and Radha in my room that I painted when I was in school, every one that visits my rooms seems to be thrilled by it. I don’t know if I am proud of it, it is just a paining after all but I like it too much.

 

  1. What do you doubt?

Don’t even let me start here, the list can go on. But as of now, I doubt myself sometimes.

 

  1. What are some of your morals?

I hate lying, but I do it just to keep someone smiling. I know I can be upfront and just blabber everything out but the drenched look on someone else’s face after that shatters me. So I do lie.

Not so much morally, right?

 

  1. What do you want to be remembered for?

Duh! For something, anything that I ever wrote. I’d be really happy if that ever happens.

 

  1. What do you regret not doing in your childhood years?

I don’t regret my childhood one bit!

 

  1. What is your favorite fragrance?

Jasminum sambac (Arabian jasmine)

Mogra flowers in Hindi.

It is a species of Jasmine.

 

 

  1. What do you think your last words will be?

I want it to be “OM”

 

  1. Who or what do you take for granted?

My mother.

 

  1. Why would you be annoying as a roommate?

I’d ask to have my roommate for that. She never pointed out anything.

But I guess, she’d say I used to go off to sleep when she used to blabber on late in the night, even when I’d tell her that I am tired.

Well, we used to laugh on it the next day and she would tell me her entire day’s story again in the morning over breakfast.

I do miss her a lot.

 

  1. What is something you’re insecure about?

My writing.

 

  1. What’s the best & worst piece of advice you’ve received?

My mother- “Do not care about people, they will judge you, they will point at you. So just ignore them.”

 

Someone I ignore- “You are a girl, what are you going to do with so much of education?”

It made me so furious that I just stopped talking to the person despite everything. And you know what, that person is not even some old guy from other generation. He was someone my age!

 

  1. What irrational fears do you have?

That I am going to end up marrying someone and regret it for the rest of my life. I have had dreams relating it and have woken up all sweaty, only to realise I am still single. (This is the only secret that I have never told anyone in my life) so ssshhhhhhh

  1. What makes a good life?

A happy life is a myth. We all will go through a lot in the course of our lives, I’d consider it a good life if I achieve some of my goals by then and if I make a satisfactory example for someone else too.

 

  1. What’s the last adventure you went on?

Really long, long ago. Just caught up in work these days.

But I did go on a trip which sure was fun.

 

  1. What is the most memorable gift you’ve received?

I don’t receive gifts often, I buy stuff for myself when and whatever I want. Why wait for anyone else to gift you something on some occasion. Honestly I don’t even wait for any occasion.

But on my last birthday my dad made me speechless by gifting me a pair of diamond earrings, the type of which I was searching for so long among the imitation category.

I will cherish them for my entire life.

And not to forget the recent flowing sets of books that I received last week for my birthday 😀

 

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I hope you enjoyed reading my answers.

Do let me know what you think about them.

If anyone would like to answer these questions too, please let me know. I will forward you the questions in your mail and would love to know how you would answer them.

The set made me thinking; may be you too would have a great time answering them.

 

 

 

Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog https://aestheticmiradh.com/ and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

50 thoughts on “Know the blogger #5”

  1. Definitely enjoyed reading all your answers – I wish you find the answers of your life with ease and joy.
    The answer that gave me the laugh of my morning is – When women in India have to think will she be “allowed” to do something? – this is really hilarious and sad …so ingrained in the conditioning.

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  4. Oh girl I could relate to you so much. I never regret anything from my childhood. The turning point of my life was at 17, and because of that one decision I am still a lost and confused woman. you are like a long lost soul sister to me.

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  6. I have such a hard time trying to wrap my mind about any man saying anything so demeaning as the “You are a girl, what are you going to do with so much of education?” I think a man like that would be shocked by most women’s responses to him had he said that to someone here in the US – especially if the man was a young man!! But it’s been so fun learning about you that I think you should be creative and make up more questions to ask yourself so we can know more !!

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      1. It’s just that the entire concept of women been thought of this way is so difficult to image to me. Guess I am very fortunate never to have had to worry about that. So happy your parents didn’t raise you like that!!!

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      2. Even I am happy that you didn’t have to face such situations. Oh, I am happy for everyone who didn’t have to face those stupid traumatizing situations.
        And as for my parents, honestly I was raised that way too. (I posted something about unlearning being an Indian woman) yes, they did expect the common Indian out of me too. It took years……. for me to change myself, unlearn the usual norms and also hand h=in hand change the thinking of my parent too. but i think I did it (or actually I am still doing it)
        My parents have come a long way, from not allowing me to wear skirts to being as free as “She knows what and how to do”
        And believe me it wasn’t easy. But then I am still trying.
        As of now, currently struggling with the arranged marriage stuff! (And this such equally!)

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      3. Wow! Good for you though for breaking that cycle!!! No skirts??? But that seems contradictory to me as here if you were a skirt or dress it is more “femine” I guess you might say than pants so that surprises me!! So fun to learn each others cultures more!!

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      5. Oh, ok that makes more sense!😄so a long skirt or dress would have been ok just not otherwise. What about showing your arms was that an issue ever? Not being disrespectful with asking but I honestly don’t really know the standard rules there on that way of culture. What does your brother think of the old culture vs new woman’s ways? I love how much you adore him by the way!! Nice to see siblings truly appreciate each other at a young age as I see often they don’t seem to get that connection until they get older. I love and value my sister the same but am very blessed she only lives a 10 minute drive away. I can’t imagine there being physical distance between us where we couldn’t run over to each other’s homes quickly so I can’t imagine how that feels for you right now! Such a handsome brother you have too😊

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      6. Thank you. How do you know my brother is handsome?
        Yes, showing my arms were an issue too. It was just how they grew up, they were from very small places, so they were brought up like that. It was not their fault actually.
        But if you meet them now, you’d never believe they would have such thoughts some day. my dad loves western formals now, (its comfortable he says.)
        And my mom, oh! she is in love with all sorts of western or Indian attire now! In fact she wears jeans, skirts,western gowns too.
        So, it’s not only me, they have changed too.
        And I don’t mind you asking me anyhting,

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      8. Thank you.
        As fro my brother, some time very soon. (I just have to sneak into his cupboard and get hold of his hard-disk. He just does not like clicking photos, so the minimum ones that we managed to get him clicked, he has hidden it very safely!)
        But I need them now anyway! So soon!

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  9. 121 answer….( hopefully not flirting like me) and the best things in you are..you are soo comfortable to speak,you too have patience.And what should I say????? And about dance,you should have little nerves for that.Maybe you will find your Krishna soon..as you are radhanpara

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  10. The answer to each question is in a unique way a piece of its own, always a bit of change and surprise to find in each one…
    Lovely words weaved together Moushmi!!😃😊😊
    Enjoyed reading it!!💕

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  11. #122 – perfect! Wish we were told the same in ours!! 😖
    #123 – you have got really wonderful parents!!👌
    #124 – not just one thing but many…in short…an amazing writer who describes things in such engrossing details….and is growing better with each passing day!, so optimistic, is strong headed with an opinion of your own, is brave enough to take stand for what is right, can travel alone and enjoy it too (i wish i could be like you here!), is creative and appreciative of art, is intelligent and humble at the same time, is emotional (i like this quality in anyone)…bas itna hi pata hai abhi tak! 😄
    #126 – definitely counts as one!! You actually saved someone!! Impressive…really!! 👍
    #131 – oh that’s sad!!! But i know you will get back at it!! You are strong i know
    #133 – the reality… except parents!
    #134 – that would be a compliment!! There is no fun in being understood so easily! 😛😜😝
    #135 – some lessons are never learnt but become a habit 😞
    #141 – you made me skip to my childhood right away… childhood is associated with few memories, the mere mention of which acts as a floo-powder to childhood! Mogra is one such for me. Every morning i used to pluck mogra and bela flowers from our garden and keep in our room and that intoxicating fragnance would linger in the room whole day! And every evening I would count the buds which would bloom into a flower next day!! Have you seen mogra flowers? They are so beautiful and compact like a rose but with no thorns!
    #143 – we all do to our parents and realize it too late! 😞
    #145 – oh come on!! Get out if it!! You are an amazing writer and you should realise it by now!
    #147 – it’s a nightmare for me!! 😨😨

    That ends it I guess….it was so engaging and enjoyable!! And glad to know more about you!! Awed! 🙇

    PS: sorry this comment went too long! But i really liked this hence wrote so much

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    1. Hey dear you don’t need to be sorry, it was great to hear such a comment. with such detailed analysis. I am glad to know how you feel about me.
      Thank you soooo much, and yes I have seen mogra flowers. I love the smell, and the the thorn part is actually right!!

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