Anger Issues

Posted byMoushmi RadhanparaPosted inHuman Nature, It's how life is!, Ramblings of my mind.Tags:, , , , , , , , , , ,

There is a single question in my mind

To which my soul resides.

The question may have been artless

The answer to which for me is tactless.

 

Can anyone please tell me the truth?

How to deal with such anger disputes?

 

Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog https://aestheticmiradh.com/ and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

76 thoughts on “Anger Issues”

      1. If you have patience the Creator is with you, if He is with you since you have patience then, bam, you don’t need to worry. (For verily Allah is with those you have patience, Quran) ☺️☺️

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      3. Now you do.
        So, executing it.

        And ifyou point fingers later saying that I suggested, we don’t each other.
        Umm, we don’t, but hen we really won’t know each other. 👍🏻

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  4. This advice will be really different from others and maybe it can turn into a debate as to if this is a correct thing or not but I have dealt with many angry souls all my life and all i could tell them (even though they didn’t agree with me) was to lock yourself in a room or if you are outside then just isolate yourself from everything that is troubling you and even things that are not troubling you (because once you are in anger you get mad over each and every single thing) sit for a while take a few deep breaths and OVERTHINK. I know people don’t take overthinking as a good quality but that is because they don’t know the full procedure of overthinking. I actually wrote a whole blog on overthinking if you want to get to know more about it, do check it out. But, yeah that is my advice for getting over those anger issues. Overthink about the situation.. Let your mind wander and gradually you will find yourself stuck so deep in thoughts that you will even forget that you were angry.

    Also, you can come to me if you are still struggling. I shouldn’t brag but I have helped people with anger issues before too, so maybe…😅. Otherwise best of luck.

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    2. Hi Astha I am so glad for your comment, not because it gave me a perspective but because it relates to how I like to deal with such situations.
      This post may have been inpulsive, but most of the times, when I know that the anger is getting put of hand, all I try to do is ‘run away’ may be like a coward but I just go away from the thing, the person, situation and distract myself.
      ‘Overthinking’ comes at night though. But this going away thing helps, as I restrict myslef from saying things which I might later regret.
      So a big thank you for such wonderful words.

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  5. I know it doesn’t comes suddenly,you just lose a piece here and than some piece there and all in once but i guess we all just need to learn how to forgive not to other but to ourselves also than only we can calmly look out for a solution…sometimes it’s just that we all need a private time with our thyself…Btw we can also use this anger power in some creativity naa!!!what say???

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  11. Anger is usually hurt and frustration in disguise. I’ve learned from my friend to stop instantly reacting as that never ends well for me😄. So now I try to wait as long as possible then confront the situation/person calmly and hope for the best 😄. But it can be useful too in motivating you to do some accomplishment that you’ve been told you couldn’t do etc too 😃

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    1. I see what you are trying to convey.
      I will be honest here, I am not always really very good with anger, but I have had a lot of control over it since a few months, but when it reaches a level, that I feel useless and helpless, I really don’t know what to do. Because in my case, it is mostly, what you referred to it, ‘a disguise in hurt and frustration.’
      So whenever i am angry to that level, I really stop talking to the person (mostly) and just go away, run away (may be like a coward) but then I do it as i know that if I don’t go away, I might say something which I should not have.
      So basically I opt for hurting myself again.
      (uughh what am I saying, am i making sense? I should just stop talking)

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  13. Very basic solution is start doing just 10 minute Yoga everyday anytime.. with calm music. & if you are free n take out some more time then go for 30 to 40 minutes meditation with calm music..

    You will get results early. This will cure you from root… so any situation or circumstances will no more able to cause anger… & you will not need to calm down at that particular time..
    Stay healthy, Stay happy ☺

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  14. I am a survivor of anger management issues. I maintained myself to the state of Hulk where I keep my anger contained until it bursts out into fury. Somewhere it is right, and somewhere not. But the best way to be emotionally agile is to see you emotion as a seperate entity. You emotions should not drive your actions, if you’re able to understand my concept. You must be aware of what you feel at a particular moment and how it should be handled in the best manner. The trick is to remember and forget the right things at the right time and move on. One day we will all be happy humans. 😀

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    1. Oh dear, thank you so much for these words.
      I completely understand what you are trying to say here. it gets difficult for me sometimes, but yes the thought that ‘we will be happy humans someday’ gives me strenght.

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  16. Mmm.. for me I go through such moments quite frequently.. its a phase and a state of mind that is life-long. Only the degree varies when good things are above the bad ones or probably low ones. Important is to accept it as a part of life, as I choose to look at it.. and it moves with you as you grow with different variations. Sometimes we choose to speak with the person or many a times we dont know whether we should really be thinking the way we are.. is it really worth my serious thinking or anger! And if yes, we dont have a choice but to be courageous.
    Lastly, wisdom doesn’t stop you to react, as I understand it ensures that you are aware, accept and come out of that state of mind quicker than the last time.
    Take care of yourself 🌼

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  18. The answer to this is simple enough for a poem –

    “If the person is real and dear,
    The anger will soon disappear,

    But if the person is dear but not real,
    Anger will help a great deal”.

    Wow….that was useless….but anyway, I have poured my 2 mins to make this up…I know I am dumb!!

    Whenever confused, just remember Shit happens!!

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