There is a single question in my mind
To which my soul resides.
The question may have been artless
The answer to which for me is tactless.
Can anyone please tell me the truth?
How to deal with such anger disputes?
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A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog https://aestheticmiradh.com/ and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.
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Have patience. 😇😇😇
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Thank you for the advise, kind of testing at times.
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If you have patience the Creator is with you, if He is with you since you have patience then, bam, you don’t need to worry. (For verily Allah is with those you have patience, Quran) ☺️☺️
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Then I will try and get myself together, now!
Enough of the repressed anger.
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(*who have). Yea Girl, be like sunny deol, . (I hope it fits here).
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Hahaha
Okay!
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It needs practice to resolve the issue.You may start counting backwards or may tell yourself that”accept what we can’t change”.It does help.
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I try it most of the times, but sometimes I just flow with my instincts.
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It needs practiceas I said.☺
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A lot 🙂
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B.r.e.a.k. S.t.u.f.f.
Let me know if it doesn”t work.
Also, don’t let me know if you want me to pay the bill for the boken items. 😛
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Haahaha, humor might!
My family will be all over me if I start doing that.
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There is always someone to blame. Like wind, perhaps.
Neighbor’s stuff can also be included, just letting you know.
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Ha!
I never knew that was an option too.
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Now you do.
So, executing it.
And ifyou point fingers later saying that I suggested, we don’t each other.
Umm, we don’t, but hen we really won’t know each other. 👍🏻
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Hahaha
Okay, I won’t point any finger at you, don’t worry!!
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Because you know what they say, if you point a finger at someone, the other fingers would be pointing back at you! 😛
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Oh that won’t be issue, cause I am not going after my neighbor’s things,
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Oh okay.
You always have your own stuff to break.
So, how’s your anger now?
On a scale of 1 to 100, wher edo you stand?
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As of now, all gone, but when I wrote the post,
Mostly around 70-80
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Whoa, that’s a lot.
Well, all good now. Nice.
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Oh yes, thankfully!
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This advice will be really different from others and maybe it can turn into a debate as to if this is a correct thing or not but I have dealt with many angry souls all my life and all i could tell them (even though they didn’t agree with me) was to lock yourself in a room or if you are outside then just isolate yourself from everything that is troubling you and even things that are not troubling you (because once you are in anger you get mad over each and every single thing) sit for a while take a few deep breaths and OVERTHINK. I know people don’t take overthinking as a good quality but that is because they don’t know the full procedure of overthinking. I actually wrote a whole blog on overthinking if you want to get to know more about it, do check it out. But, yeah that is my advice for getting over those anger issues. Overthink about the situation.. Let your mind wander and gradually you will find yourself stuck so deep in thoughts that you will even forget that you were angry.
Also, you can come to me if you are still struggling. I shouldn’t brag but I have helped people with anger issues before too, so maybe…😅. Otherwise best of luck.
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Oops it turned out to be longer than I thought😂
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Hi Astha I am so glad for your comment, not because it gave me a perspective but because it relates to how I like to deal with such situations.
This post may have been inpulsive, but most of the times, when I know that the anger is getting put of hand, all I try to do is ‘run away’ may be like a coward but I just go away from the thing, the person, situation and distract myself.
‘Overthinking’ comes at night though. But this going away thing helps, as I restrict myslef from saying things which I might later regret.
So a big thank you for such wonderful words.
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You’re most welcome. Best of luck😊
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Thank you so much dear.
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I know it doesn’t comes suddenly,you just lose a piece here and than some piece there and all in once but i guess we all just need to learn how to forgive not to other but to ourselves also than only we can calmly look out for a solution…sometimes it’s just that we all need a private time with our thyself…Btw we can also use this anger power in some creativity naa!!!what say???
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Yes, what an idea, using the anger elsewhere!
Your way of looking at it is awesome, we need to forgive ourselves, and calmly look for a solution.
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Again blink blink😉
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Patience is virtue!
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Just count from 1 to 10…haha 😁 so cinematic 😜
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Thank you dear,
I think I’ll just run away for a while. (Just like a coward) But i’d do that for not wanting to say something that I’d later definitely regret.
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dont hold it in. let it out. tell the person, if you can how you feel. it takes more energy to keep a fist, than to open the hand a let it go.
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You are right, actually.
Thanks.
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You are welcome. But, it is easy to say such things, and often hard to put them into practice.
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It is. I often wonder what if I hurt the other person?
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It may happen, but you have to think of yourself first
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Agreed.
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Count from 0 to 10 when you feel particularly angry, listen to music. Music certainly works for me
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Music does seem like a healthy advise.
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All answers are in you already. Just be brave to recognize them
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Thank you for the strength.
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Anger is usually hurt and frustration in disguise. I’ve learned from my friend to stop instantly reacting as that never ends well for me😄. So now I try to wait as long as possible then confront the situation/person calmly and hope for the best 😄. But it can be useful too in motivating you to do some accomplishment that you’ve been told you couldn’t do etc too 😃
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I see what you are trying to convey.
I will be honest here, I am not always really very good with anger, but I have had a lot of control over it since a few months, but when it reaches a level, that I feel useless and helpless, I really don’t know what to do. Because in my case, it is mostly, what you referred to it, ‘a disguise in hurt and frustration.’
So whenever i am angry to that level, I really stop talking to the person (mostly) and just go away, run away (may be like a coward) but then I do it as i know that if I don’t go away, I might say something which I should not have.
So basically I opt for hurting myself again.
(uughh what am I saying, am i making sense? I should just stop talking)
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Just sit and drink water,remember babys smile,just go out and look up in the sky and walk by seeing sky ..this is fantastic exercise..and also observe petals of flowers..or take ten deep breaths
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Thank you kalyan.
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Hmm..ok
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Very basic solution is start doing just 10 minute Yoga everyday anytime.. with calm music. & if you are free n take out some more time then go for 30 to 40 minutes meditation with calm music..
You will get results early. This will cure you from root… so any situation or circumstances will no more able to cause anger… & you will not need to calm down at that particular time..
Stay healthy, Stay happy ☺
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Thank you so much dear.
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I am a survivor of anger management issues. I maintained myself to the state of Hulk where I keep my anger contained until it bursts out into fury. Somewhere it is right, and somewhere not. But the best way to be emotionally agile is to see you emotion as a seperate entity. You emotions should not drive your actions, if you’re able to understand my concept. You must be aware of what you feel at a particular moment and how it should be handled in the best manner. The trick is to remember and forget the right things at the right time and move on. One day we will all be happy humans. 😀
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Oh dear, thank you so much for these words.
I completely understand what you are trying to say here. it gets difficult for me sometimes, but yes the thought that ‘we will be happy humans someday’ gives me strenght.
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Have a very nice week dear, thank you for sharing great one
Kisses
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Thank you dear.
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Mmm.. for me I go through such moments quite frequently.. its a phase and a state of mind that is life-long. Only the degree varies when good things are above the bad ones or probably low ones. Important is to accept it as a part of life, as I choose to look at it.. and it moves with you as you grow with different variations. Sometimes we choose to speak with the person or many a times we dont know whether we should really be thinking the way we are.. is it really worth my serious thinking or anger! And if yes, we dont have a choice but to be courageous.
Lastly, wisdom doesn’t stop you to react, as I understand it ensures that you are aware, accept and come out of that state of mind quicker than the last time.
Take care of yourself 🌼
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Thank you so much for these lovely words, I will surely draw courage from them 🙂
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For me travelling, food and crying always works😁
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Thank you dear, but I’d prefer chocolates 😀
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😅🤗
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The answer to this is simple enough for a poem –
“If the person is real and dear,
The anger will soon disappear,
But if the person is dear but not real,
Anger will help a great deal”.
Wow….that was useless….but anyway, I have poured my 2 mins to make this up…I know I am dumb!!
Whenever confused, just remember Shit happens!!
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Come on, who said anything about being dumb!
That was actually good, honestly. I could never do that in 2 minutes. In fact poetry is not, and can never be my thing.
But thank you for this, it sure;y helped.
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Thank you for that…I am sure…there is a poet deep somewhere…although I am not a poet yet…!!
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You certainly write better poetry than me.
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Yeah…sure….and you lie better than me….oooh…just kidding!!!😂😂
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Hahahah
I am not lying.
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Thanks for that…I trust u moushmi!!
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🙂
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Buy a punching bag!! 😊
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Hahahaha, I think I really should.
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😛
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Thanks for that…I confidence u moushmi! You certainly save better poesy than me.
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Thank you so much dear.
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i think anger is good if it can be controlled but if it goes out of control it can break many things including bones and relationship..
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Thank you for your comment.
I agree with you. It is an emotion which cannot be avoided but needs to be controlled.
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I relate to your poem… It is a subject that I live with daily. I wish I had good advice like those above. You are brave for sharing! Thank you
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Thank you for your comment.
I am just trying to control as much of it as i can, and trying to give it a better direction.
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