Human Nature? Or just a selfish trait?

I have learned one thing over time, I might be wrong, or it may depend on individuality but it has often been true for me.

People tend to not like sad stories, by stories I don’t mean plot or novels, I just mean situations. They tend to almost hate it when we talk about sad and depressing situations going on in our lives, but in return they still expect to get an ear or two when they themselves are in such gloomy circumstances.

How justifiable is this?


Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

52 thoughts on “Human Nature? Or just a selfish trait?

      1. Was it always like that? Because perhaps somewhere in the past the reactions of people made you lose the hope to be heard and it stays so deep memorized in your system that you attract only this kind of people, could it be?

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      2. Yes this could absolutely be.
        Foe before, I used to discuss my plans, what’s going on with me, and everything in my mind, but over time it seemed no one cared, no one wanted to listen, so I just stopped ever talking about personal stuff.

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  1. Hey, don’t judge me, but I tried posing that dude in the picture and told my to take a snap. Lol. That white teeth, a close up advertisement . (pass aao, pass aao na)lol😂.
    But I think you should not over think, like how it is said, don’t sweat the small stuffs. You just say and bam over you said, if the response comes, we’ll and good, if it didn’t, let it go, let it go, cold never… And that person is giving being hypocrite, they are getting trap in their own bog. Don’t give a damn. Keep smiling.

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    1. Hahaha, I am no one to judge you!
      But yes that would have been really funny, with the same pose and all 😀
      I am not overthinking it but am just surprised at their self centered behaviour.
      But thank you for this reminder, I don’t need to give them a lot of thought 🙂


  2. So true. People are just like that but again there are some few close ones who always have an ear for you. But yeah most of the times people are like that and then again there are people and then there are your friends ☺️

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  3. I presume its the general human tendency to seek happiness which makes them immune to external negative situations unless sadness pays them a personal visit. The degree of this immune feeling varies and differentiates people as kind and warm or cold and shrewd.

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  4. Absolutely true. It’s this inherent trait which is ever pervasive in a number of people with slightly sociopathic tendencies. Hearing about others ‘ “sad stories” implies that they will have to show a degree of empathy. This is nigh on impossible for certain people as the focus is averted from them and onto another. So these narcissistic sociopaths then ignore said “sad tale”, revert the attention back onto themselves in some way, deftly avoiding the illusion of an attempt at empathy (for that’s what it would have been should they have attempted it) and go happily back to discussing (monologuing ) about their favourite subject- themselves .

    On the yang side if that yin, it is troublesome to the spirit if someone ONLY talks in sad stories. It is a heartfelt duty to our fellow humans to listen and support if they are sad and melancholy, however if someone is trying to suck the life force out of you by talking about his troubles constantly, with no end in sight, then one should cut short this succubus type behaviour for fear of losing oneself to that person’s darkness.
    Balance is key. It’s peace.

    Wonderful post

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    1. Hie, thank you for such a thoughtful post. I might not even have considered it so deeply before posting it. But you explained it so well. Thank you so much,
      And I rightfully agree, that balance is the key, not going too far, and neither being too away from the truth, might help.
      I honestly appreciate your response on this post, thanks a ton!


  5. Omg…this is so true Moushmi!! And remember we had this very same conversation once ..on that post of yours in which you told the story of how you started writing!!…
    It’s true… people don’t give an ear to your sadness but want to have one when it’s their turn!!… it’s a purely selfish human nature 😏

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