The Problem Of Calling It ‘A Problem’.

Posted byMoushmi RadhanparaPosted inHuman Nature, My Reality Mirror, Ramblings of my mind.Tags:, , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

The situation usually one deals with is that where, as a human, you create a problem, then worry over it, then scale the said problem, then you work it out and then finally you get it done with. The problem is then forgotten, learnt from and in the distant past soon. That is the usual plan, right, when it comes to dealing with your problems in life, big or small?

But off late I have been acquainted with another problem, or should I say a problem of looking at this problem matter? Very recently I have been analysing it differently. Yes, we all have problems, I get it. No one’s life is a cake-walk. But now I know there could be another situation too, another very raw way to look at the said problems. In this second situation, as a human you create problems, then worry over it, then scale it with all your other problems, weight the importance of this problem, and then before even solving it, you scale your problems with someone else’s problems, then you realise that your problem may not be of even a little worth in comparison to the other persons’. Then guilt pricks you, gnaws at you, crawls all over you, to even think about your problem as a problem. Then, that guilt becomes your problem, for even thinking that you had a problem when all this while other people have real important matters to look into. And finally, with that guilt, comes back your first problem, and you start wondering how do you even define this problem as a problem? You want to let it go, without calling it a crisis, but it knock you back down and doesn’t let you get up until you call it with its previous name, ‘the problem’.

So the second situation has two problems, and no solution? The guilt keeps haunting you, and then somehow you just move on? You have no solution because, solutions are meant for problems, but you constantly reject the idea of it being called a problem. How can you? You have seen worst and now you want to fuss over your little princess problems? But unless you try and get it done with you just have to keep dealing with the problems….

I have no idea what I have written above here. But honestly, if you get me, what can a person possibly do in such a situation?

Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog https://aestheticmiradh.com/ and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

39 thoughts on “The Problem Of Calling It ‘A Problem’.”

      1. I understand how it feels. Yet with your permission I will continue to nudge you to open up for exploration with …
        What if that blur is a perspective too?
        It is important to remain in these questions without actually answering …often a space opens up which is different and we are able to listen to ourselves deep within from that space …more possibilities develop from there.

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  6. Realise that it is how you are thinking of yourself (as in any negativities) that paints whatever you feel about any problem. What triggers those problems are irrelevant, it is but a guide to what lies underneath. Find the common theme that upsets you, then get your shovel out. Find what drives those thoughts…and you are free 😀

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  8. I find it upsetting when I have a problem and others says I’m making a mountain out of mole hill. The thing is my problem is gigantic to me and to say it’s not a problem is 😖😖😖😖😖

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your insight on this. But sometime this mind wanders on a road which has no destination, on a road which may be the wrong route. But nonetheless it wants to wander only to confuse itself more.

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  11. Situations don’t make us, we create situations don’t we?
    Is that the problem? Or the problem is something which we Think is, or we create it? Or it was there already?
    I don’t know if I made any sense either but I somehow missed you ❤️❤️

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Your perception holds importance for me.

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