Pros & Cons

I have a very bad habit of making lists. Want to buy a few things? There is a shopping list ready. Want to ask me a few names to start reading books? I have a very wonderful set of to read list. Every night I also prepare a to-do list for the next day! It seems fine so far, doesn’t it?


It gets worse, but only when I start making pros and cons list for every single thing. It is even okay so far, I guess. Rather it gets worse, extremely worse when I start making a pros and cons list even when things relating to people. I know, this sounds very, very wrong, but sometimes I really don’t know how to decide, how to judge a person and then I end up doing exactly this.


Very recently, clearing all my unwanted things from my shelves, (only to make more place for the new books) I found an old notebook wherein I discovered yet another discarded pros and cons list, embarrassingly, made for a person. It was almost a year back, but despite my guilt of making this in regard of a person, I am only happy that I did it. What I am not happy about is the fact that this was the first time that I was guilty about making a list for a person and I did not go with the instincts based on the list. Had I followed my usual method of balancing the pros and cons, I would have made the right decision. But I didn’t. I made a blunder. I learnt. I moved on. And yet I felt guilt then. I think I had no reason to feel that guilt, and yet I still do! I mean it’s a person I am talking about, how can I judge a person based on a few advantages and disadvantages? But again, it’s always helped me when confused, and the one time I go wilt my damned guilt, I lose the game. I act foolish.


Don’t know exactly what’s right from wrong, but I think the lists work well with me, only this one single time it failed me, or rather I failed it.

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Sorry, I just had to blur it, it was too personal, and yet I wanted to show how very stupid I can be, taking pens and papers and actually jotting points down as if I was studying something very seriously!! 😉


Go on, judge me, I am pretty sure you have already made a pros and cons list on me 😀

Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

20 thoughts on “Pros & Cons

  1. If making pros and cons list works for you then there’s nothing wrong with making a list about people. The only problem with the pros and cons list is if you don’t list all the pros and cons. You cannot worry over something that you did or did not do in the past. We can only learn from it. It sounds like you learned from this instance since you still do list and it sounds like you follow the outcome. I think we all do pros and cons list we just may not always write them down but we may do them in our head for almost all situations.

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  2. I always have a running to-do list and I just love it. It keeps me honest, always on top of things and help prioritize.
    On making pros and cons list on people here is my take, you can list as many disadvantages, but when you are drawn to a person the list goes for a toss. And you will be surprised sometimes evil attracts too. So, making a list is not wrong, for if not a list on our mind we may be doing the same, but controlling your mind is. As that seldom works

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  3. Well, I have stopped judging most people, I work via my instincts. Once it is done, it is done. Look forward… There are no pros and cons to people for me only what I feel for them and they for me

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  4. Nice one..
    Only thing is i don’t judge people as it leads to misunderstandings and fights over small issues.
    Rather just keep it simple..
    If u have a list of mine please let me know too😅
    If u prepare lists then its your personal agenda of analysing people and things which is good if you are getting positive results most of the times..

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