You Know What You Need

When it comes to mental health I believe it is you who know what you need. No one can tell you what to do and how to deal with it. No other being is obliged or has the right to make you feel worthless, nor to tell you that you are being too dramatic with your issues. They are not your caregivers and you are not theirs. So, unless otherwise there is a compassionate environment you don’t want to indulge yourself with them and their toxic thoughts.

The stigma that some people associate with any mental health conditions should in no way make you feel less caring towards yourself. If anything is very important to you, it is important. Anything, if disturbs you, is disturbing. And it is you who will decide and deal with all of them. They won’t.

Having said that, what is required is you try and take a step towards dealing with them. Unhappiness, that one might feel with these situations could be addictive and one must not in any condition, make it a habit. Any small step, one small effort on your part could make a difference. Talk to someone who cares about you, understands you, exercise, read, make humor your partner, and breathe. Do whatever makes you happy, do whatever interests you, do anything that gives you the slightest of pleasure, however inconsequent, however useless and stupid it may seem, every small step counts. And with that, with every new step you might as well just reach the end of the tunnel where there is more light, and you don’t have to stare at your dull dark shoes.

I attach below a few lines from a poem ‘Perennials’ by Maggie Smith in a hope of spreading a little more hope.

Let us praise the girl
who lives in what they call

a transitional neighborhood—
another way of saying not dead?

Or risen from it? Before running
full speed through the sprinkler’s arc,

she tells her mother, who kneels
in the garden: Pretend I’m racing

someone else. Pretend I’m winning.


Published by Moushmi Radhanpara

A bilingual writer, Moushmi Radhanpara has authored three poetry collections so far, namely POSIES and 03:21 AM –An Ode to Rust & Restlessness, and Resignation of an Angel. She is also scribbling an unplanned rough draft of a story as a part of NANOWRIMO 2020 and hopes that something might come out of it. She has also co-authored two books, The Lockdown Stories and Mirage so far. Her poetries can be found on her blog and a few other online portals. She believes in the fact that a better reader makes a better writer. Reading a 100 books a year is her latest obsession. She can be found either drunk on coffee or hiding away from everything and admiring the gorgeous sun.

13 thoughts on “You Know What You Need

  1. MH sufferers are too stigmatized … people should seek professional help and surround themselves with caring supportive friends. Don’t accept any less … you are precious.

    I’ve often found such people are given other very special gifts/ talents …

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  2. seeking and needing professional help is one thing. being able to find it and have it affordable is another thing. over the years, MH facilities have closed. why? because they were not being funded. insurance does not and will not pay for MH care. until MH is seen as a REAL health issue only then will proper funding will happen.

    as for creativity and MH issues? i think there is a strong correlation with the degree of creativity and MH. the more the person is creative, the more they suffer from MH issues.


  3. This resonates with me. Indeed the ones suffering are in many cases stigmatised and belittled and often told, ‘oh you just make any little sadness to be a state of depression. Grow out of it’ and that can be harmful. In my experience, embracing sorrow as any other emotion is equally important. Acceptance helps in so many ways which then leads to a will to overcome and emerge out of it.

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  4. Thank you for sharing about this – it is so important for mental health sufferers to seek help and cut out toxic people! However, sometimes we don’t know what is best for us, which is why it’s so important to seek professional help.

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