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Going Offline!

I am not much of a technology person, and when I say so I literally mean that. You can call me technologically challenged too, but when time comes I do battle with all the advances that our technology has made and feel like I don’t know anything at all. All the same, I somehow manage to get my things done. I am pretty sure there are many people like me, who would rather let things be easy without the technology hassle.

But while technology has given us so many ways to make life easier for us, it has also given us 100 different ways of entertainment, not to forget innumerable sites and pages for social interaction, which finally brings me to my todays thoughts, which more or less bounce around the time that we waste/socialize in there. It might come out like I call socializing as a waste of time (and believe me if I could say so, I would.) but I am not saying so, but this has indeed and very sadly messed up with our minds and the way how we live our life.

And thinking over this I have been very determinedly trying to reduce my time wasted, glued to my phone. Nah-ah, it wasn’t my new years resolution which I am going to be trying for a couple of months and then leave it, rather I have been doing it for a few months now, and gradually I have reduced the time from a few shocking hours to a minimal time of 49 minutes a day, which mostly involved work related calls and texts, and also, very little time chatting over friends, not to forget a little bit of online reading.

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I have reduced my Facebook- Instagram- Twitter and any other socializing app, time to bare minimum, and only once a week. I was never much of a person who would fret over likes, comments on a post, but even then these apps have had an impact on me. And truthfully, without them it is, so, so peaceful! Even before though, I wouldn’t post anything there often, neither would I give them more than half an hour to them each day. But of course even this seemed more to me and hence the decision.

And believe me, it is so much more relaxing without all of them on my phone. Honestly, I feel that they give us a wrong and misguided direction in following how we ought to live our lives, how many friends we need to have, how much flawless we need to be, and even significantly to give importance to the fact that what others think of us.

 

I am not saying that social media is wrong; I am simply saying it was being unhealthy for me recently, and thus the effort. I must say- so far, so good 😉

 

 

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A Million Little Things!

From unknown to known,

From being fellow bloggers to blogger friends,

From reading to sharing,

From solace to comfort,

From silence to spreading the thought,

You lovely people have stayed with me,

Carried the burden of my unjustifiable words,

Put along with my never-ending emotional tantrums,

And also entertained me with some of my irrational posts,

More so this has all happened without any judgements on my character,

And all the more, you have given me,

A million little things to cherish;

For which I can’t thank anyone of you enough.

All of you, every one of you have always remained,

And will always remain close to my heart.

A big thank you,

And a very Happy friendships day.

For a friend is not one who talks to you everyday, and hangs out with you, who brings you gifts and cuts a cake with you on your birthday, with whom you share all your secrets and with whom you go shopping. He is not someone with whom you just discuss your latest girl crush, or with whom you go out and eat because you are in the mood.

A friend is someone who is simply there for you when you need them, who will sit at home and listen to you while you ramble away all your miseries, again and again. He is someone who will know what’s wrong, with one look, and will not let go until you let go of what you are hiding. He is someone who will laugh at you after knowing, what’s troubling you, but will be with you all the same. A friend is not someone who posts with you 20 different photos on social media, but in the end, forgets that there is a life outside of social media. (I get the irony of posting this on a blog)

Walter Winchell was absolutely right in saying, “A friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”

The Last Name Drama

We were just sitting at the tea table, sipping some tea when the conversation began between me and my mother. Of course I don’t remember how it started, but it ended quite abruptly and not in good terms. And I will admit from the beginning that I might not have been the sweetest and the most patient person then.

Watching TV and discussing about God knows what, we started discussing about the name change of a woman post marriage. All I had said till then was that a woman has the right to decide if she wants to take her husband’s name or not. And just then, she blasted. “What do you mean that it is on her to decide? Are you implying that you want to keep your name after marriage? Do you not understand how your in-laws are going to react when they find out about that? They will only think that you never accepted them if you don’t change your name. And what about your husband, how is he going to feel?”

And that is when I broke the spell, and asked her to hold her horses.

“Mom, please calm down, I am not getting married now. And I just said that it is on a woman to decide, I did not say what I am going to do. And after this you have made me realise that it is almost a rule according to you. Not changing name isn’t exactly acceptable.”

“No, no, you don’t want to change your name, don’t change, you handle your new family then, I will not interfere.” And started the emotional drama.

“Yes, I will see what I will have to do then.” And we continued watching TV in silence, and after a while I left the room.

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I might have over-reacted but she might have too. I was just passing a general comment. I am really not getting married now, and honestly, I haven’t even thought about such things. Just the fact about getting married scares me now, let alone the thought of changing names.

And yes,, I still stand by what I said, it is on her to decide what she wants to do. Anything forcibly is not accepted.

And honestly, just how much trouble we have to go through to change names everywhere, on each and every identity cards, not to forget the social media where we have the trend of having two last names.